I’m 17 and I love this girl, she’s my friend but I’ve been in love with her for 5 years now. I’ve told her my feelings 2 years ago but she doesn’t love me.
I’ve never had a girl before, maybe because I’m a little shy and I never asked a girl out… but the problem is that I love this girl, I’ve done so much for her but she will never see me as more than a friend… we always talk about things that we do not tell anyone else. We trust each other. She says that, if she could chose whom to love, she would chose me.
But the thing is that she always chooses guys that don’t give a shit about her feelings, and then she comes crying to me, because they always hurt her….. I can’t understand why she prefers those guys over me…. I always care about her.. I would never hurt her! I want her so much!
Next year she will go to the university and we won’t see each other so often. She will meet someone there and will never love me…….
I can’t think about other girls…. There are some girls interested on me, but I can’t love other girls……
The girl I love is not perfect, she’s not the best one in my school, but i would never want anybody else…. I just want her!
I’m afraid that I am wasting my time and she will never love me. I’m tired of being the best friend, or the “just friend” and being rejected as a lover….. I’m tired……
I’m just a pathetic guy, crying over a girl that doesn’t realize how much I love her and how I would always give my best to make her happy…….
3:50 pm on November 10th, 2008
that’s really sweet i wish you the best of luck. :'( so sad.
10:18 pm on November 10th, 2008
Hello my friend.
The problem with you is the following.
You are neighter pathethic nor stupid, infact, this happened to me a lot of times.
She is happy with you as a friend, because it is easier to find a boyfriend than a friend.
The fact is that to be more valuable, you must be with her less often. (Like gold is so valuable because it is scarce)
You have to learn to say NO!, to her more often. Be confident of you (Not extremely arrogant). You sound desperate and girls smell that. You should not be readable to her, because she will loose interest.
You sound obssesed, try not to think to much about her. It works. I remember that i loved a bitch but she didn´t love me, so one day i decided to ignore her more and more until she started to approach.
Hope it helps.
1:44 am on November 11th, 2008
Sometimes things just don’t go our way, but don’t get so down and don’t let yourself get obsessed with this. It may be hard but you just might win her over eventually. But often people must learn to let go. It happens to all of us and is the hardest thing to do. It is your choice but i hope the path you take will make both of you happy.
9:20 am on November 11th, 2008
hey bro
i know what you’re going through because i’ve been there before. She obviously cares about you but you gotta come out with it. Pull her aside and tell her how you feel. Trust me i was in your shoes until i finally confronted her. I told her that I’ve been there for her thick and thin and that she deserved better. BUt you can’t be afraid to tell her how you honestly feel about her. tell her somewhere where u are comfortable like i drove my friend to my favorite lookout point and i confessed myself to her.
7:39 pm on November 12th, 2008
this is so sad :S i feel so bad for u
2:23 am on November 13th, 2008
I was there too man. Many times. I still talk to those girls, I knew them from high school. They are happily married now.
My personal experience, it’s going to hurt. I told a girl how I felt towards her. She said Thank you and I did feel better about myself for telling her, but she still didn’t feel the same towards me.
So I took a hiking trip and got some alone time to think. When I got back, I hung around my friends more, and started moving on with my life.
Its going to take time, and do you know how many women you’re going to meet in your life? You won’t marry the first 5 girls you meet in your life. Get involved in your own life first and develop you. Start getting involved in your own life and you’ll meet the right one eventually.
1:17 pm on November 13th, 2008
I’ve been told many times that I must forget her and move on with my life…..but it’s easier said than done I guess…….I’m afraid that I won’t find someone like her……she seems perfect to me….there’s none like her…..
2:23 am on November 17th, 2008
You need to get away from her, the university thing will be good for that. If you’re around her all the time you’ll never learn to let her go as a love interest. The reason you can’t find interest in someone else is because she’s also your bestfriend and you’re with her all the time; thus not allowing yourself to see other possibilities.
You’ll find someone. Just try to distance yourself from her a little in order to let that happen.
1:13 am on November 23rd, 2008
The only way she’ll know is if you tell her. She might feel the same, she might not. The only thing you can ever control is yourself, so go for it. Expect the worst, hope for the best, at the very least you’ll have a good life experience just confronting her.
4:15 am on December 29th, 2008
hey, i have been there too,
your best option is to read a book that i read, that changed my life.
Its called “The Game” by Neil Strauss. You can buy it online (or if you know anything about downloading, its available as an ebook to be downloaded on tons of sites online, and for free if you go to the right sites) Anyway, its a book that essentially teaches guys who arent successful with women, how to behave in a way that causes them to feel incredible attraction towards you. Anyway, i read it, and it changed the way I dealt with women, and now i can choose who likes me, the books not perfect, but for guys like us, its awesome and a life changer, I hiope you get it. best of luck to you.
10:01 am on January 16th, 2009
This relationship you have with her – it seems to be imbalanced.
She gets a dependable shoulder to cry on, someone who’s always there, while she experiments.
You get total misery.
Relationships that are more balanced are more satisfying. Relationships in which both people give and get.
10:42 pm on February 11th, 2009
my freind that is normal, I fell in love with a girl in Germany who farmed for a living and oh I wish I she was still live, she was so kind to me and did not mind I was shy and barely knew anything about sex, for sure she was not shy but it was perfect we played various kissing games and cuddled behind the barn but never any further though i tryed to pull her skirt up once, and I can say i truly loved her