So I’ve been with this girl for about a good two years. For a good portion of our relationship I’ve been the “ideal” boyfriend that any girl would love. You know that special attention, listening, little gifts here and there just to let her know how special she is, willingness to talk; you know, the unconditional I love you with all my heart type of attention- she neglected it.
And during all this time I’ve been in love with another girl. Another girl that I knew in high school and until this very day, I am still in love with her. Her and I share everything, and I mean everything in common! I know she still has feelings for me as I do for her. But for some reason I cannot break up with my girlfriend. She’s a great girl now, super sweet and rarely ever asks for anything in return for her graciousness, but I feel like she’s just putting on a facade. She’s also brought out a side of me that I don’t even know.
And this other girl, well she is simply amazing. Everyone loves her, she’s everyones friend, and everytime we see each other, it’s like nothing’s changed- we always flirt back and forth in a sort of aggressive kind of way even in front of her boy. I just don’t know what to do. There’s so many factors in this… My best friends don’t even like my current girlfriend.. In fact… they hate her stinkin guts! I had a shot with this other girl before but I think I may have ruined that by now, haha, yeah ruined.
5:24 am on January 29th, 2009
You’re not doing the girl you’re dating any favors. My high school boyfriend was in love with someone else the whole time and it almost ruined me, psychologically. I thought I was overweight and ugly when I was not, and nearly become anorexic. I felt SO much better after we broke up and vowed never to date anyone unless they were madly in love with me and now I am much happier!
You are playing it safe but you don’t realize how much you are hurting the one you’re with!