I work so hard to make my dream come true, but my girlfriend doesn’t understand how hard it is to start and run your own business. The economy is so bad and I’m lucky if I make a dime in profit.
She treats me with so much disrespect that I can barely stand to look at her and it’s all because of money. She covers most of her bills and food. She covers our rent, which a lot of the time I’ll admit can’t pay. I told her I couldn’t pay but she insisted that I move in.
She drives up the credit card and gets upset that I can’t give her any money b/c she’s in the debt she created.
Recently, I just started making some money to help pay rent but she is so evil with how she speaks to me. I’m sick of it … I’m so damn sick of it! I feel trapped like I can’t get out of this relationship without turning my whole life upside down.
I’ve been thinking about cheating, just to hurt her and make her feel like shit; she’s driving me to it.
Although, it would be better to break-up with her; I don’t see the point of her not feeling the way she makes me feel or worse
I want to wait until I make more money and treat her with the disrespect she treats me with, find another girl and leave. I can’t bare to be with her in my success, when she can’t stand by me respectfully when times are bad.
She doesn’t know business is picking up for me financially.
I don’t know I’m not a bad person . . . maybe I just needed to vent on here . . . maybe.
8:05 pm on January 30th, 2009
Let me explain this to you,slow and deliberate. You are not a child anymore and i am not saying this as a form of put down but as a lever to lift you up. I wont go so far as to say you hate this girl but i can surely say you dont love her.The relationship you are in seems to be so off balance that one or both of you are soon to tip over or break real soon. for one,due to money she obviously but your level of respect along with a dollar sign,a woman in love,speaks with love. your heart seems to be ravaged with a moment for revenge and thats a ugly form of attitude to have within,i suggest you pray and also make every effort you can to stand on your own before you start making this money because if you think you feel like you living a guilt trap now,then surely she will drag your ass through the dirt. you owe her nothing and she owe you nothing…respect her more and be the bigger person by leaving and giving her time to wallow in her own shit and ponder on how destructive her attitude has been towards you…shit, she probably wishing you up and leave anyway and the attitude is whats inside.
1:05 pm on January 31st, 2009
Please, find a way to end this relationship and take back your dignity. Cheating wouldn’t solve anything, yes it would feel good but would just be a band-aid on the problem- you are being verbally abused and disrespected by this woman. She set you up by asking you to move in with her knowing that you weren’t financially ready to pull your weight because she is insecure and wants to control and break you down mentally. Women know they can get away with this shit because if you get so upset and haul off and smack the shit out of her- you can go to jail, they know you’re not going to do anything like that because why, you’re a decent normal guy who just wants love and respect. You have to respect yourself enough to get out- she’s being a bitch and the more you keep quiet the more she is breaking you down. Give yourself a couple of weeks to a month, save your money and leave without telling her a fucking thing!
1:07 pm on February 2nd, 2009
Great story, let me write the ending for you…
you take off work one day, move your shit out, she comes home from work and you are no where to found.
END OF STORY!!! And you live happily ever after.
3:21 am on February 3rd, 2009
You’re leeching off of her. Quit whining and get out.
12:16 pm on February 4th, 2009
time to end it…fighting over money is just crazy – whenever lifes problems get to me I take a deep breath and think about where I’ll be in 100 years and then I think about where the other person will be in 100 years – most likely we’ll both be dead… kinda puts a little perspective on things… Life’s too short to spend it with someone who does not embrace who you are – move on.
12:59 pm on February 4th, 2009
…and why do guys always need someone in the bushes????….get out NOW and make it ON YOUR OWN!
5:45 pm on February 4th, 2009
I took a day off and moved out I packed up my belongings while she was at work.
To those of you who think I just moved in with her to mooch off of her . . . you’re wrong.
She asked me to move in and if I didn’t, she would have broken up with me(That was her threat). Of course that should have been my first sign oh well. I’m looking to move into my own place in a month or two when I find a place(money is coming in). I just turned 24yrs old and she is going on 31yrs old; we both should have looked at that as a factor. I wish her the best and I want to thank everyone for their advice whether you agree with me or not. Thanks.
1:54 pm on February 6th, 2009
dude you’re a sad excuse for a man! She’s better of without you!
7:20 am on February 7th, 2009
I think this relationship sounds very unhealthy and has been going on for longer than it should have been. I was beginning to hate my ex-boyfriend and felt a little bit like that, like I want to hurt him. But I remembered the reasons I was with him to begin with STILL STAND, he did the right things once, he was good to me once, etc, but it’s not working now. So we just ended it mutually because it was hurting us both. So just end it! End it! End it! If anything, to not stoop to the level of passive-aggression like she is.
12:34 am on April 15th, 2009
Can I just tell you from the females point of view? My partner is doing the same thing right now as you are – we are all in the same boat here. I work while he stays at home trying to get his ‘business’ going and when I mean business I mean learning to trade with shares and forex and whatnot. I dont mind him doing this but it is really hard when he is just not contributing to the household – The golden rule of starting a business is not to give up your day job as there are costs involved. My b/f earns a quarter of what I do, hes on benefits and still expects to pay nearly $1000 a month (he hardly even makes that a month) in costs to buying software and entering trading rooms. I am so pissed of with him and I have no respect for him because he is bludging of me for the past 2 years. I am fine to a degree with what he is doing but he should be helping support his business somehow because he can go get a job (even part time)to help pay for costs. He does nothing all day long and dont even get outta bed till noon most days – and then he just sits at his mac (which I bought) cant even wash one dish and when I come home after work he says he’s been busy all day. BULLSHIT Im so tired of this and Im sure your girlfriend has some sort of reason why she feels this way. Did you ever stop to think its being a bit selfish not helping out in order to pursue YOUR dream? you need to come to a compromise I wish I could but my b/f just drains me whenever we talk about it and it turns into an arguement.I dont want to stop my partner from doing something he has a passion for and I want him to succeed but it is hard when its all just take, take, take from him and nothing in return. I still make dinner and I still clean the house and I still go to work and he does nothing! maybe thats how your girlfriend feels too? you need to give a little and learn to co-operate and come to a compromise or you can kiss your relationship goodbye. You say you want to have an affair to hurt her so she feels like you do? well that means you must still love her to want to hurt her. If you didnt you wouldnt care how she felt. and for her to hurt you like you say must mean you love her and are concerned about how she makes you feel.
6:54 pm on February 12th, 2010
She’s seems like a goldigger, get out of there…