I feel I will never be good enough or sexy enough and I will never have a guy love me and fuck me all the time and want to marry me because I am not as hot as sexy beautiful perfect busty models that men seem to want.
I am attractive, but I am not a model. I think I need to get in the best shape of my life and model and then still I won’t be enough. Plus I will get older every year and there are always new young models coming out for men to look at and love and want more than me. I want to die. Thinking about it makes me cry and feel so bad about myself. Why does that have to matter to men so much? I wish I was good enough for a man so he would fall in love with me.
Are all guys obsessed with looking up new girls photos and videos? 🙁 I don’t look for guys to drool over very often at all. I want a real man.
I am thinking of stripping and being extremely strict with my diet and exercise. I don’t know what to do to feel better about myself. I feel I will never be as good as hot models my boyfriend (and probably all men) really wants. What can I do?
1:37 pm on November 12th, 2008
I am so sorry to hear you say and believe this. You are looking outward to solve an inward problem. If someone truly loves another, it is the substance of their soul which is beautiful, not the exterior. Get rid of any guy who is just around you for looks or only dates women for shallow physical reasons. Sure physical attraction is part of it, but the mind, the soul, the real person is so much more valuable and sexy than the airbrushed fakery in porn. Good luck and when you really believe that you are beautiful then people will see it too.
8:01 pm on November 12th, 2008
dreamfeline, I don’t know where you are living, maybe in some superficial materialistic shallow city called hollywood. But where I’m from and where I live (which is definitely not the boondocks) there are real men. Actually there are real men everywhere! Be your fucking self! Eat what you want, wear what you want, say what you want. The man who loves you, really loves you, love you for you. He will not judge you, criticize you, he will appreciate you and love you. HOWEVER, it requires both people to nurture each other’s love. Believe it or not, guys don’t really like skinny bitches. If you don’t have breasts, SO WHAT, you must have something to make up for it, big butt? long legs? thick lips? killer smile? If not physical, then how about your personality? If the man doesn’t like you because your breasts/butt is not big enough or you don’t dress how he wants you to or wants to change you. THEN HE IS NOT THE ONE FOR YOU!!!!!!! Just be PATIENT, CONFIDENT, AND WORK OUT, not for men, for your well being, and most important, DON’T DATE A MAN THAT SPENDS MORE TIME IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR THAN YOU, PAMPERS HIMSELF MORE THAN YOU, PUTS MORE MAKEUP ON THAN YOU, AND LIKES STICK THIN BITCHES. BECAUSE YOUR BETTER THAN THAT, AND YOU DON’T NEED A MAN THATS A BITCH! SO GET OUT THIS NASTY FUCKING SUPERFICIAL, COCAINE SNORTING, SIZE 0000 WEARING, HALF AN M & M FOR THE DAY EATING, ANOREXIC, BULIMIC, JEANS FALLING OFF OF THE ASS WEARING, MONEY HUNGRY, SHALLOW, MATERIALISTIC PLACE AND GO OUT AND FIND YOURSELF A MAN WHO WILL LOVE YOU FOR WHATS ON THE INSIDE!
8:04 pm on November 12th, 2008
btw, make sure the man is educated and has a good job, because it sounds like the men who are going for are some rapper wanna-be’s who fantasize about being a hip hop star and dancing with some video hoes. THOSE AREN’T MEN, THEY ARE BOYS LIVING A LIE! GO FOR A SMART EDUCATED MAN WHO IS SUCCESSFUL, NOT DREAMING ABOUT A FAR FETCHED IMPOSSIBLE NON EXISTENT FANTASY.
1:01 am on November 13th, 2008
Sweetie, I’ve been there and I know how you feel more than you know.
If you want to make your self look better, kudos to you. But make sure you do for your self and not for anyone else.
Why would you feel you have to compete with Models when you’re not in the industry? We live in the real world babe, they live in a fucked up pro ana fantasy world.
Oh and Models in my opinion have frail, under developed bodies which I don’t find feminine or sexy at all. Everything you see that they’re on is AIR BRUSHED. We’d all look flawless if we had 2 tons of make up on plus airbrushing!
I think the best thing for you to do would be to maybe seek some counseling , because you sound like you may have Body Dysmorphic Disorder.
If you choose not to do that, then the first thing you should do is learn to LOVE your self the way you are. Then you can truely be objective about what it really is that is bugging you, mentally or physically, and you can work it out. Because your self loathing is making you think that you’re not worth shit. And in that state of mind, everything about your body , in your head, is shit too. And as some one from a neutral stand point, I’m sure you’re more than fine.
But no matter how many people you may want to please by your looks, and no matter how many of them will compliment you and say nice things to you. Deep down inside you’ll feel the same way you do now, until you learn self acceptance and learn to love your self.
The ONLY person’s opinion, about your self, that should matter is YOUR OWN, and yours only.
And please don’t think you’re not good enough for any guy, and that you need to find a guy who warrants you good enough by his standards. Girl, YOU need a MAN, a real MAN, who is good enough for YOU!
Peace and Love
2:42 am on November 13th, 2008
So you want guys to pay attention to you?
I’ll be honest here. You want to make guys notice you?
Believe in yourself first and foremost. Guys don’t like needy women.
“Why Men Love Bitches.” Read it.
Go the gym. Get a personal trainer. Stick with the gym, you’ll always feel better about yourself when you work out.
This is the brutal truth, it’s tough love. It’ll help you, but only if you want it bad enough.
Do you?
2:41 am on November 17th, 2008
beautiful, slim, model-type women have problems too. They never know whether a man loves them just for their looks or for their personality. Also, it’s lonely, because women only see you as a rival, so it’s hard to have close female friends.
10:16 pm on November 30th, 2008
You’ve already received a lot of advice but it’s gunna take a while before you believe it. I’m gunna give you 3 viewpoints.
I’m a man and as a man I know that you find a woman attractive no matter what your friends say, just like woman find men attractive no matter what their friends say. That’s the way it is. Only men with self confidence can admit that and that’s the only type of man you want anyway.
No matter what you look like your personality is the most important aspect. When I grew up on playboy I wanted a blond with big boobs (here me out) That’s the magazine image put in my head. I met a really nice girl with curly hair and latin eyes. Plump but in good shape. The blond hair was now dark hair. I met another girl with a big but but no boob.. i mean no boobs.. the boobs went out the window. I dated a short girl (I’m 6’2″) and she was so much fun and cute and I could pick her up easily. Made for lots of fun. The last girl I dated was tall. So I know like small boobs big, big butts, black curly hair, any skin tone and tall girls. See… it’s getting all out of wack. Every girl who’s personality I’ve like has changed my dream girl.. and when I meet my dream girl she’ll change everything I want physically into her. BTW I’ve been for the butts for a while now but I won’t cross a girl off my list if she doesn’t have one. Her personality is her best asset.
As a graphic designer I think you should see this video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hibyAJOSW8U
I make a lot of ppl look “beautiful” it’s just a marketing ploy. We change noses and face and all sorts of things. I’ve seen ppl stretched out and ribs removed. An image is infinitely malleable, the human body is not. In 3d design it’s gotten so advanced that we can make a person who seems flawless. I’ve seen some.. I have to tell you it’s scary. It’s beautiful but they are no longer human. They seem like shells. The trick now is to put defects back in to reclaim humanity. The differences is what make us beautiful. It’s hard to imagine but it’s true. Puffy nipples may seem weird but there’s a whole cult of admires. That goes for overly obese woman. Midgets and everything in between.
Lastly, I use to model. The woman that the photographers picked were the ones who could cover their flaws with soft lighting or lots of makeup. Most of the models I’ve met have been ugly ducklings. Alot still consider themselves ugly ducklings.. those who don’t know their self worth. Most of them have a hard time being approached because they intimidated guys and are lonely. Alot are considered freakishly tall and automatically eliminate a bulk of guys who lack the confidence to approach them just based on height (The average height for a male in the US is 5’9″, the average height for a runway model starts at 5’9″) I myself am considered good looking amongst my peers and am happy to say that I have a personality that would shine even if that wasn’t the case.
You just need to have faith.. and I say just.. but it’s not always easy. Do what’s right by you and your health. Eat healthy and don’t skip meals. Workout and take care of your skin by not eating oily foods. What’s good for your insides are going to reflect on your outsides. I can bet right now there’s a guy who has a crush on you.. he’s probably thinks the same way you do. A girl like that would never talk to me. The first girl I ever wanted to talk to had a crush on me as well as I on her for nearly 5 years before we knew it. Neither of us had the confidence to make a move. Who knew?
7:49 pm on August 25th, 2009
Get rid of TV.
8:41 am on May 23rd, 2010
I met a lot of beautiful girls with low selfesteem. I guess you’re really attractive!
11:46 am on May 23rd, 2010
Be fun.
That’s it …
7:41 pm on June 24th, 2010
Solution: stop being a dumb bitch.
If you really are attractive, you have the eye of plenty of guys already. Don’t expect us to stop checking out other girls though. The best you can ask is that we don’t do it when you’re looking.