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Nice guys finish last…

by bmh056

It sucks I havent had a girlfriend since like 7th grade, and now I am in 12th every girl that i seem to like only likes me as a friend, im a real nice guy but it seems to me that nice guys finish last….it just sucks.

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March 23rd, 2009

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Depressed
1:18 pm on March 23rd, 2009

I know what you feel.
For girls it’s not enough that we are the best persons, the only ones that really care about them, they prefer the ones who like to treat them like shit.
We are nice guys, but we allways finnish last.
same shooter
11:11 pm on March 24th, 2009

I suggest that you get a personal trainer and workout in the gym, and take some protein and creatine and Bulk up. Chicks dig muscles on guys. I was skinny in HIGH school and then I bulked up god muscles and chicks act like sluts around me now. Total difference. CHicks especially dig Pecs (Chest) Arms and Butt.
delicate phoenix
2:17 am on March 25th, 2009

Guy i was like you, all the ones that you like never see you more than just a friend. even if you blatantly tell them, you still lose… but believe this experience will enable you to appreciate it more than you would if it was easy. you will know how to keep a relationship better and treat that woman better than the guys who dont work for it. nice guys do finish last but they have the last laugh. best believe.
oztotl
11:51 am on March 25th, 2009

Most likely they view you as having low self-confidence and use you to unload their relationship troubles onto.

Best thing to do is to quit being ‘just a friend’. Ask a girl out and if she says no, ask another girl out. Don’t try to be a friend and hope something will eventually happen. It won’t. And if it does happen, it will be because some other guy has broken her. And you don’t want to fix someone else’s mess. BELIEVE ME.
careful cricket
2:09 pm on March 25th, 2009

Women and men are alike in that neither one knows what they really want in a partner.

Women claim they are attracted to confidence in men, but they do not know what confidence truly is. As a result, they mistake the arrogance, self-absorption, and all those other negative characteristics, for confidence. Which is why some many wind up with douchebags.

Give it time. Like guys, women eventually grow up and learn what real confidence is. Nice guys may finish last, but they also have the last laugh.
Davo
5:01 pm on March 25th, 2009

I know what you’re talking about, fkin hate that shit when you spend hours on a girl for to be later on a “friend”, fuck you hoe I have enough “friends” you can suck my dick or get the fuck outta here.
You have to treat pretty girls like shit because they get that kind of attention all the time and are therefor full of themselves, you balance it out by breaking her ego.
You have to do this when you talk to her for the first time and everytime she looks down on you.
Also make your intentions clearer, don’t spend hours on small talk, flirt and tease her instead.
keepin it real
9:33 pm on March 26th, 2009

I dont necessarily agree. I can personally say from experience that girls like the bad boys in high school & during the party years/college years but want to settle down with the nice guy. So it DOES pay to be the nice guy & you WILL have the last laugh!! Men & women think completely differently. Men cant be “just friends” with women while women can, in most cases the girl prolly knows that you like her but doesnt want to be anything but friends EVER. So if she says she just wants to be friends, move on to someone that isnt looking to be “just friends”. BTW, I have noticed that many guys try to get the super hot girl maybe lowering your standards a little to the nice girl next door type would help as well. Best of luck!!
jv
6:55 am on April 8th, 2009

I was you in high school, every girl I ever liked was always using me to talk about her other relationships, nothing more…

but since high school everything completely changed, now I have girls at the bar come over and try to pick me up (hot ones too).. so what changed? I did. In high school I was a bit shy and got teased a lot (making me shyer) .. as soon as high school ended, I quickly realized that I didn’t have to see the dicks everyday anymore.. that alone made me a lot happier and made it easier to enjoy life and be more of myself..

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve picked up at a bar right under the nose of some dumb jock just because I was the guy there to have fun, not the guy trying to work her over..

My point is: Get to know yourself, keep what you like and work to change what you don’t until you are happy with who you are, then fuck everyone else – your life is your party so enjoy it. once you are comfortable with yourself, you will appear more confident to others and that is what woman find attractive.. you can have all the muscles in the world but they don’t make up for what a little confidence can do for you. and as a bonus, you are a nice guy, so once you find a girl you like, chances are you’ll be able to keep her..

oh and ps. it’s ok to be the shoulder to cry on for a girl that you think of as just a friend (I have a few friends like that).. BUT NEVER be that shoulder for a woman you like, it’s not fair to you.. honestly, next time she comes to bitch, straight up tell her “I can’t be the guy you tell all your problems too, sorry” and then walk away.. NEVER EVER EVER EVER break this rule!! I have seen toooo many guy friends give in to a 3am call from the girl they like and listen up til 7 in the morning.. NONE of those situations has ended well for the guy.

peace, hope this helps, been there – done that, life gets better! promise!
39 year old almost virgin
1:46 am on April 15th, 2009

Man, I didn’t have a girlfriend until I was 21. look, the ones you like that want to be friends, be friends. If you really need a sexual release you can always use your hands.
Not having a girlfriend until I was older made me realise how much of a game was all those sexual hookups people kept having.
Besides, the best way to really get to know a girl is to be her friend. And if she wants you to be more, you could say it would probably be more than sexual attraction….it’s cause she likes who you are.
superbee
3:24 pm on April 25th, 2009

Dude! I’ve been playing with women my whole life… I’m 56 now. It took 30 years to figure out this part. You never can figure them out BUT what they all want is an adventure. Nice guys are not edgy. They are bland. You have to tease her, tell her that you have the soulful hots for her then walk away as though nothing happened. Treat her as though you don’t care if you get together or not, but when you walk away, look back at her for just an instant. Learn to tease, make comments about what she is wearing but not necessarily nice comments. Say something that can be taken 2 ways and let her ponder over what you meant. Leave her with an unanswered question in her mind about you and she will have you on her mine all day and nite. I know this is tough, but you have to show interest but also show her she is not the only one. Play with her mind (I know this sounds bad) but you are going to have to experiment on other girls and find out what works for you….. Play with them… take it to the edge and let them know you are a bad boy who might be nice…. maybe. I remember, in a bar one time, I asked this woman to watch my drink while I went to my car. She agreed and I went to my car, and I split and went to another bar. Later that evening, she happened in to the bar I was at, and asked me where I went. I said “something came up”. She was mad, but within 3 minutes, she asked me to her place for a nightcap. This is the way it works… believe it or not. Try this stuff and have fun experimenting. Also, start paying attention to her friends and
flirt with them… Jealousy is a strong force to women.
true pediatrician
7:04 pm on April 25th, 2009

Yup. You’re correct. Nice guys always finish last. I’ve learned over the years that being overly nice gets you nowhere. I got more than my share of women growing up, but still saw my friends treat gorgeous women like sh*t and they’d always come back for more. I’d be nice and get treated like crap.

I haven’t totally gone to the side of being a dick, but I’ve definitely got rid of the nice guy routine. For me, I just stay aloof and treat them nicely but I also make it seem like I could take them or leave them and leave a lot up in the air. I really don’t open up to them until we’ve been dating a long time either.

I guess maybe the mysterious, aloof guy is attractive to them. At this point in my life, I’m hooking up with at least one woman a month by behaving this way. I should also add that its not really intentional, but I really don’t care if I’m single or not which probably leads to my behavior and attitude. Actually, the more I think about it, I prefer being single which leads to me not caring and this may come off as being very independent and confident which is attractive to healthy women.
secret librarian
12:26 pm on April 27th, 2009

maybe u are gay?… consider it
wet fatso
10:54 pm on April 28th, 2009

Lose your fear of rejection. The reason girls are being only your friends is because you are approaching them as such. Don’t expect a friend who goes out with you as a friend to turn into something else. Bottom line is you have to be willing to say no if you figure out she’s not interested in being more than friends. FLIRT AND BE VOCAL ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT. Say it in a fun way but do tell her that you have some nasty NOT NICE thoughts about her. The way you do this is you don’t care what the outcome is. If she’s into it YOU’RE IN, if she’s not YOU’RE OUT. Either way you move forward and can move on to the next girl without beating yourself up for not finding out. You’ll be surprised how a lot of girls who initially say no end up changing their tune once you’ve moved on and not hung around. NEVER BE CLINGY… you have to keep moving if you want the girls to come to you. Just keep at it and you’ll be fine. You will figure out your self worth and that my friend will give you confidence and confidence is what girls really dig. If the girl likes you SHE will be the one coming after you. Don’t waste your time with a girl who won’t appreciate you or with a girl who just wants to be your friend. Have friends but don’t try to make them into something else. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN ALL OF THIS IS KNOW THAT THE MAJORITY OF PEOPLE STRUGGLE WITH RELATIONSHIPS. Being the most popular person in the room usually gives you a false sense of accomplishment. You really haven’t done anything to earn the acclaim and you don’t appreciate what comes easy. You are not alone and the fact that you are trying to get better is a good indicator that you are on the right track. Give this some time and you WILL improve. The difference between maturity and immaturity for a guy is the ability to say NO to a girl. When we’re younger it is uncomfortable to say NO to a girl even though we know she really isn’t what we’re interested in or we know she is just using us to stroke her ego. As you get older you learn to tell these types to take a walk. There is no point in wasting your time with someone who just wants to play games. NICE GUYS aren’t interested in games (the majority of times) and as you get older you learn to not fall for them. At your age the really hot, popular girls are really into games. WHY? Because everybody is after them and they know it. KEEP WALKING MY FRIEND… your hormones will betray you a lot at this age but you will eventually learn to make the distinction and move on without much fuss. GOOD LUCK AND BEST WISHES.
Big
12:15 pm on May 7th, 2009

Nice guys finish last. This is true and will remain true for the rest of your life. Its not that women enjoy being treated like shit. They enjoy being with men who are confident and assertive. So grow some balls, stop letting people walk all over you and assert yourself.
Mr. Blunt
3:50 am on May 21st, 2009

Girls Will Never Learn!
handsome arsonist
4:53 pm on May 25th, 2009

maybe you’re not just a nice guy. you might be a geek, too. or something unsavory to hs-age girls. i’m a nice guy, and i don’t always finish first, but i don’t finish last all the time, either. that phrase is like reading random horoscopes- even if it’s not your sign, you can make it fit so it sounds like you.
you gotta develop a personality and be confident about it. be yourself and someone will like that. on the other hand, if yourself is a hermit, how are you going to meet girls? you have to take a step. that, or get a girl drunk, or pay for it.
Jaded
5:11 am on June 1st, 2009

I hear this spoken quite often and it kills me… Let me shed some light because I’m starting to believe it goes for both sexes:

I am a 30-something year old female. Single. Smart (Last I.Q. test I scored above 135, graduated college in less than 4 years, speak 3 languages, blah blah) I manage one of the top restaurants in my city. I’m a semi-retired socialite but have earned/maintained my status well enough that I still get invited to most major parties without having to ask. I own my car and my residence.

Those who don’t know me can’t believe I’m over 25. I have a knack for quelling any ill/negative feelings. I’m the kind of girl most guys want their girlfriend to hang out with if they’re not around or even if they are…
Sadly, despite all those “brownie points”, I haven’t had a serious boyfriend in over 5 years. I’ve been told I’m intimidating, despite my small stature (I’m under 5’4″). Yet, being called by numerous people as being one of the coolest people to know/hang out with, I can’t find a companion…

I’m convinced that the majority of the populace can’t handle being with someone who is REAL and aware and comfortable of who they are and how you relate to your environment. Even more disconcerting to them is that you most likely don’t conform with the false image we are bombarded with on TV, movies, etc. as the real and truly genuine person.

Yes, it’s frustrating being alone when you think you’re being the better person (believe me, I’m on the same page)…but I also believe that it’s best to be alone for the right reasons than to be with someone for all the wrong ones…

And I believe I’m a nice/great woman…

Cheers and don’t give up…
canadian green snake
10:11 am on June 12th, 2009

Simple solution, be up front about what you want. If you just act like a friend to a girl when you meet them then that’s all they’ll ever think of you as. It’s not about nice guys finishing last, you can be a nice guy and get a girlfriend, but you have to get over your nerves and actually make a move on them.
eM
8:16 am on June 14th, 2009

chicks dig ass holes…plain and simple. treat a girl like shit and dont show a lot of emotions towards her. O yeah and call her a bitch from time to time. works every time.
thegame
2:48 am on July 23rd, 2009

Not getting chics?? Scientists in India hav discovered that guys who r nt gettin chicks hav some sort of genes which attracts them towards males. I guess u r 1 of dem try sm males leave galz 4 other ppl
american motherfucker
11:18 pm on August 13th, 2009

Read this book

How to be the jerk women love
Amazon it – Own it – and live it

Then Amazon this book
The Sex God Method – Daniel Rose
Own it – live it

These books got me making a phone call at 3am in nyc – “i’m coming over to f@$@ be awake when i get there!”

Her Response: “Okay!” – I will never forget that omg sex and I still remember it to this day.
MIKEY55
3:52 am on August 14th, 2009

DUDE … READ “THE GAME”

THe Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists by Neil Strauss

IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE … JUST DO AS THE BOOK SAYS AND YOU’LL HAVE SEVERAL GIRLS … JSUT REMEMBER WHEN U FIND ONE U LIKE STAY TRUE
Jen
9:32 pm on August 31st, 2009

Having a girlfriend isn’t all there is in the world.
You should look into polyamory.
BTW, hooking/having sex/kissing a lot of people around the same portion of time does NOT make you a “slut” or a “bad person.”
It just means you are acting on your natural desires.
Just be yourself, you’ll find the right person in due time 🙂

And don’t listen to that fucker who’s telling you to be an asshole to women… Calling them a bitch? That’s a good way to get your ass kicked, walked out on, or avoided.
Respect and consent are probably the two most important aspects to establishing a decent relationship, or even just a nice fling.
swedish moth
1:07 am on September 6th, 2009

I have noticed the same thing. It seems like the only way to get a girl is to be a complete douchbag. Why is it that girls love guys that can’t get any guy friends. I mean as cool as they acted for getting girls the rest of the school hates them When i look at it this way i see that maybe you and me are the better off with keeping our dignity and having real friends. I mean sure getting laid is nice, but whats better than having a group of friends that like you for your personality, not your dick.
wealthy capricorn
7:46 pm on September 7th, 2009

i have not read the responses yet, but i did read the original confession, and all i have to say to this person is to wait!, ur only in 12th grade? the best is yet to come, i was a virgin until 12th grade and didn’t get any REAL action till i was 23, im now 26 and can tell you that there will be PLENTY of time, no need to rush, the best is yet to come
Tes
3:07 am on September 21st, 2009

Hey, the right one will come along. Just be patient..
kwickone
8:16 pm on September 21st, 2009

stop being a pussy. get on your game
Thisguy
7:47 pm on October 6th, 2009

Take advice from this 26 yo dude, cause I learned it the hard way:

NEVER RELY ON ANOTHER PERSON OR A WOMAN TO MAKE YOU HAPPY

ONLY YOU CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY, you don’t NEED a girl, but you can HAVE a girl? Make romance a LUXURY and NOT a NEED.

Once you find the power to be happy alone and in your own company ONLY THEN WILL YOU BE READY FOR LOVE, because now your love isn’t neediness but has a truly giving quality- forget all this Jerry Maguire ” you complete me” bullsh#t, you already ARE complete..
loud dildo
9:07 am on October 8th, 2009

i had this same problem start being a doosh bag even just joking around and shit starts to work out…
thegame
1:36 am on October 11th, 2009

dear, jus b brave, b a man, dont loose heart, if u like smone and she jus treat u as a frnd jus b lil bit naughty, change ur attitude 2wards her, flirt wid other galz (if u hav) in group when shes around, ur this action will rise jealous in her, make her feel tht shes loosing smthing (i.e. ur company) day by day, glz r v sensitive. Gradually a day will come when shes totally jealous or may be very angry also and will ask u “y ur flattering around those bitches”
tht time take a chance nd tell her. try sometimes sm sex talks and sm personal talks also, show tht u care abt her more than others in ur group (dont mix it with jealous technique both should be used separately). jus try it and enjoy dont listen to wt scrap ppl giv u
waiting visitor
10:30 am on October 29th, 2009

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