so i’ve been seeing this girl for about a week now, and she’s seemed really really cool. from past relationships i’ve learned that sex isnt everything, and wanted to make her wait a little bit, i was thinking a week, maybe 2 before we had sex. mainly to make sure that things sparked for the right reasons, not just great sex.
so we’re at her place, and we’ve polished off like…3, maybe 4 bottles of wine…and i’m to the point that i’m spinning drunk, most likely because i drank most of those bottles…and she’s pretty well buzzed too.
she starts to get a little crazy. like going to emotional extreems in conversation, and we’ll be talking and she’ll slap me right across the face. which i’ll admit, i’m all for a little rough-house…but not in the middle of completely irrelevant conversation, yano?
she starts to crawl on me on the couch, and i just pretty much let her, dont try to push it at all, then she makes out with me as i’m in the middle of conversation, and as soon as she pulls away i start right back where i got cut off. and she starts crying about how she’s not sexy enough for me, *i used to date a few strippers, and she knows it, and i’m pretty sure is very insecure about that fact*
so then she turns up the music and starts dancing for me, and as i’m slightly starting to get turned on, she cuts off and goes and smokes a cigarette. by the time she gets back i’ve already halfway passed out-did i mention i drank like 3 bottles of wine? and she tells me if i’m tired to just go lay down, so i strip down and crawl into her bed, and she comes in like 10 minutes later and strips and says she wants to fuck. normally i would have…except by then i was really starting to get the spins, and the only thing on my mind was holding onto the bed so i wouldnt fall off.
i politely turn her down, and tell her i’m waaay to fucked up and would puke on her…ask me again in the morning, and she starts to freak out. then goes on about how no guy has ever turned her down, about how she’s not sexy enough for me just because she dosent have big fake tits, and is throwing a general fit like a kid who’s parents wont give him candy.
she then lies down next to me, back to me and i try to pull her in close to calm her down, and she lets out a big sigh of disgust and storms off to the kitchen. i dont know how long she was gone, because i passed the hell out…but she wakes me up yelling at me again. i tell her to calm down, and this goes on back and forth for about 20 minutes, then she finally turns off the lights and crawls in bed. then starts crying, or more like sobbing uncontrollably. i try to calm her down, but then have to leave for a minute to ralf, and come back and she’s still sobbing, then goes on to start cussing me out and talking shit, not really to me..but about me like i’m not even there. then more sobbing, and finally i calm her down and we go to sleep.
next morning she apologizes repeatedly for the incident, and has for the last couple nights, and says that she’s really an alcoholic and shouldnt drink anymore, bad shit happens, blah blah blah.
anyways…i still really like her…she’s a great girl, except when she’s drunk, and i only witnessed the one night. and we have great sparks as a couple so far, except that one incident.
any advice please?!? should i cut my losses and kick her to the curb…or try to give her another chance?
6:37 pm on December 12th, 2008
Well, Personally you sound like a great guy, and if she’s as great of a person as you, you should work things out because maybe 3 bottles wasn’t so appropriate lol if you know what i mean? maybe a glass or two. but three? seriously. I say give it a shot, no more excessive drinking. but to me it also seems her worst side comes out when she drinks and that’s really bad, that’s never good for a new relationship. first impressions count the most. but, just think about it and think HARD. and take it slow, even getting an opinion from her asking her; how she feels about the whole thing. and go from their, it can only get better dear. 😉 GO FOR IT…
7:24 pm on December 12th, 2008
give her another chance.
everyone deserves a second chance, and if you like her dont throw it away for one bad night.
8:51 am on December 13th, 2008
I think she felt insecure because every time she made a move, you kind of turned her down. That’s really hurtful to a woman. We’re told that men want it whenever they can get it. so if you’re turning us down, that means you don’t find us sexy. You gotta make a move on this girl or at least tell her how beautiful she is. Yeah, she got crazy, but so did you. She probably didn’t realize how much you had to drink or thought you could handle it. I don’t think she got too crazy considering how drunk she got. She just seems really insecure, so you gotta be the one to build her up (if you like her that much. IS it that hard to give her compliments?
No seriously, the biggest mistake was continuing your conversation right after she kissed you. TO her, you’re not interested.
6:35 am on December 15th, 2008
Yo amigo,
Some would say grab your sanity and run like hell. but honestly you really like her, there is definite sparkage and she knows she’s a bad drunk and alcoholic.
I think you should give this a shot, Im speaking as a recovering alcoholic myself, and if she’s going to put the effort to stay sober with you then be there for her and give her every reason to stay that way.
And if things go south (and I mean Waaaaay south) THEN you run like hell.
Oh, also given her insecurity about your past relations with a few strippers? Be honest with her, truthful and do what you can to reassure her and make her know she’s more than worthy if not more than that. (I know there’s alot of self esteem issues, have that myself sadly, its mostly about how she see’s herself mainly.)
Best of luck! 😉
2:44 pm on December 15th, 2008
this one will be too much hassel in the long run, get her drunk shag her and try pot the brown…..oh and make sure you record it 🙂
1:06 pm on January 4th, 2009
My sisters a drunk, and she gets NASTY every time she drinks. Kick her to the curb ASAP! Once a drunk ALWAYS a drunk. UNLESS she gets some serious recovery going, then I would stay the hell away. I don’t even talk to my sister these days, coz she gets WORSE then that girl you just described. Arghh…
2:35 pm on January 6th, 2009
Run!!! Run like your life depends on it and don’t look back. I was in a similar situation, call it a learning one. She’s got MANY MAJOR issues and to be fair to you and everyone else please realize that we are not in the fixing people business. Take it from my personal experience, she’s not going to get fixed by anyone but herself and that takes time, preferably when she’s single and can focus all her energy on healing herself. You can find some one that doesn’t have any issues and is just as good if not better. Don’t feel like you have to stick it out, because you don’t.
4:53 am on January 9th, 2009
Give it a shot, it’s only when she’s drunk right? You guys seem so good together, well except her being drunk. Have a talk with her and if you guys are really the perfect couple like you make it out to be, then she’ll stop drinking for you, the relationship, and HERSELF.
11:20 pm on January 9th, 2009
Get rid of her, bitch be crazy boi. But then again that’s logic and the heart don’t follow that shit…
9:33 am on January 16th, 2009
You’ve only been with her a week. Not enough time to know her well. It could be good to become friends first – it can help to avoid nasty surprises.
9:39 am on January 27th, 2009
She is bi-polar. DROP HER AND RUN AWAY – Change your phone number. Seriously.
5:27 pm on January 27th, 2009
This was posted over 6 weeks ago so by now you should have worked out if it was a one off, or if she has reoccurring issues.
My advice is if she has done the “crazy” thing again then you should run like you’ve never run before. There is no point wasting time with someone that is emotionally fucked up, it will rub off on you, and you will spend the rest of your time with her trying to fix her… that’s not going to happen.
Then again if she’s been “cool”, well maybe it was a one off… you just have to try live with the fact that she could snap at any moment… your life.
1:18 pm on March 29th, 2009
Sounds like she knows she has a problem. Maybe you should tell her that she needs to get some help for the relationship to continue. But really, if I were you I’d run and run fast. If the relationship is just beginning, usually girls like that don’t get any better, they just get worse, way worse.
3:34 pm on June 15th, 2009
if yer after a buzz smoke weed instead jus mix it with shisha in a bong then yer rockin
7:24 am on May 5th, 2010
Tell her if she continues drinking YOU HAVE TO LEAVE HER!
If she quits, you can have a great life with her!
Considering this was in 2008, Im assuming you broke up with her already because White people dont have very successful relationships anyway lol.
But try it out if she can quit alcohol!
7:39 pm on June 24th, 2010
Lol some chicks just can’t help it when they drink. They gotta find something to start shit about. Fortunately, these are the same girls who like it in the ass.
So whenever she gets drunk, make her the center of attention and give into her whims for a few hours, give here the anal love she so desperately craves… and if she wigs out afterwords just laugh and go home.
She’ll be sober and apologize later, and then you can demand oral for your inconvenience.