I am a 22 yo man and my friend is also 22. we both are swimming since we were 10. our parents are long time friends. so when we were 13 i slept over at their house as our parents went to a wedding in pennsylvania (we are from california). we watched porn that night, and it was hot, so we took off our clothes. we were jacking off but didn’t look at each other like if we wanted to do anything. then he started jacking me and than blowing me. i did the same to him. when we were 14 we both had cum, and we eventually started snowballing. Still we weren’t gay. Even now we both have a girlfriend. And I at least wouldn’t try anal sex. it’s grossing me out. but everything else is ok. we are muscular both so doing each other seems to me to be really hot.
Is this normal? I can’t imagine myself doing this to any other man, nor does him. Are there guys who do this?
6:30 am on March 24th, 2009
Maybe you are bisexual.. a lot of men are but few will admit.
12:49 am on March 26th, 2009
This sounds like a joke to me !
9:41 pm on March 26th, 2009
Yeah sweetie if your asking if your gay/bi, I’m not quite sure how to say this, im a 33 yr old female, but that behavior is NOT normal for a straight guy. I had some experiences as well as a girl with a friend of mine but I have learned that i am bi. I think you are either in denial about being gay or perhaps you are bi like myself. Take your time & dont rush into marriage or anything until you figure this out a little more. BTW, there is NOTHING wrong with being gay & it is actually not something YOU have control over its been proven that it can be genetic. Good luck!! 🙂
5:17 pm on March 31st, 2009
Doesn’t matter weather you’re gay or bi, you shouldn’t cheat on your girlfriend, brokeback.
4:14 pm on April 1st, 2009
jonathan??? is that you?? i love you! please let me suck your willie.
6:46 pm on April 1st, 2009
If you think it is Hott to jack off this guy, and blow him, then you are bi. Even if you have a girlfriend!
Good luck
7:51 pm on April 7th, 2009
You are definately gay. Wikipedia it bro….
11:50 am on April 10th, 2009
Naa… What most of you are saying is bull… You are str8, but u like one guy… I have a girl friend, who has a gf, but she’s not gay. She doesn’t find any other women atractice, just her gf. She still likes guys. I don’t see anything wrong with it. You like who you like, and you can’t deny it. Just share ur hot action with the rest of the world! lol.
Don’t worry.
10:56 pm on April 14th, 2009
well, you know what? positive or pleasurable first sexual experiences you have during those crucial years of puberty when exploring sex and sexuality/ and your hormones etc can leave a mark on you sexually. The pleasure you gained from that experience has become one of your sexual fantasies now – its sorta like say ..if the first pleasurable sexual experience you had was jerking off to a picture of a cow then everytime you see a picture of a cow or even maybe a cow you may get turned on ..you know what I mean? if its only your friend that turns you on and no other males it could be because this – still means your bi, you just have a preference for this one guy.
5:23 pm on April 15th, 2009
Yeah, dude (dudette!) you DEFINETLY are NOT a straight guy….not in ANY fashion…I suggest talking to someone about it…it may help you deal with it in a better way….ASAP, would be my advice.
Good luck….
10:25 am on April 21st, 2009
hahahaaa. niqqah youu qayy.! andd trust mee. its not qenetik. andd whoever aktually says dhat is fuckin iqnorant. [.keepin it real.] beinq qay is a sin. qod wuldnt put anyonee on earth as uh sinner. its adam and eve not adam and steve. and the thouqht of beinq qay is not uh sin. its dhaa aktually doinqq. so if youre as reliqious as i am, theres many aktions youu kan take to prevent yourself from doinqq this. if youu find yourselff bein attrakted to the same sex. try to stay away from them. that kan be hard. buh its how much your willinq to keep your faith. think about it.
12:13 pm on April 21st, 2009
My father told me a story when I was very young. It goes like this…”You can lay 1,000,000 bricks, build many many houses and no one will ever give you credit as a brick layer. If you suck 1 dick you are a faggot for the rest of you life.” I think this applies to this very well.
You and you friend are both flaming queers in hiding.
11:09 am on April 23rd, 2009
satan’s and mara’s comments were the funniest to me:)) And from today on I won’t be giving two shits. And to interesting pickpocket: I’m an atheist. I so don’t give a fuck on things like that. I just asked it cuz it was looking weird for me after a certain time, but now I’m pretty comfortable with it!
3:52 am on April 26th, 2009
You are a complete homo.
9:17 pm on May 2nd, 2009
Yeah, thats pretty gay. What part of this is natural? none of it. quit being a homo. stick to the chicks and forget the dicks.
1:19 am on May 9th, 2009
WHOAAA!!!!! nicca is you serious ?? that is SUPER DUPER ULTRA GAY bro,… like seriously!! aint no ifs ands nor “buts” about that. “str8” up! … puns intended…
2:05 am on May 22nd, 2009
homo
9:11 pm on May 22nd, 2009
Jonathan –
Most of the responses above are personal options. If you want facts, read the following:
Human sexuality is never as easily defined as many people would suggest. The truth is, our sexual engagements rarely define us as human beings. Instead, it is our beliefs, or rather, how we identify ourselves, that play the most important role. For instance, a man may identify himself as gay because of his sexual attraction AND ROMANTIC desires for other males, but may choose to ABSTAIN from sex — never engaging in sexual relations with another man. Does this make him less gay or not gay at all? I think not. The same is true if the self-identified gay male chooses to engage in sexual relations with females, does this alter his “gay nature”? Not at all. With that then, the same should be said for those men (or women) identifying as “straight” or heterosexual. Unless these individuals desire both sexual and ROMANTIC relations with the same sex, then it would be difficult to categorize these persons’ true nature as homosexual.
What’s important here is understanding the difference between SEX and ROMANCE, which our society (USA) confuses all the time. Gay or Homosexuality should be categorized as the tendency to desire SEX AND ROMANCE with someone of the same gender. It is my professional opinion that SEX alone does not categorize us humans as gay or straight, but rather, who we want to share my lives with, grow old with, and support in mutually loving relationships? Other than this, despite popular or religious belief, it is quite natural for a man or a woman to think of, or be aroused by, a particular person of the same gender. A woman may appreciate the look, feel, and shape of another woman’s breasts or entire body. Does this automatically imply that this female wishes to develop long-term romantic relationships with women? No. The same would be true for men, regardless of what most men are willing to admit or accept (although in my line of work, I know of several healthy heterosexual men who admit to having at least one same-sex arousal or experience, yet are still comfortable and confident in their heterosexuality and masculinity).
Bottom line: I think the real question here comes down to “do you desire intimate, personal, AND sexual relationships with men?” From your inquiry, I believe the answer is no. While many may say that a sexual interest in even one person of the same sex makes you gay, science disagrees. Sexual expression takes many forms. Being honest and open about your feelings can help you explore YOUR reality, which simply may be nothing more than, well, being human.
10:34 am on May 23rd, 2009
here is the deal man. I am older and trained in psychology and have some experience in sexual counseling matters. Human sexuality is not a binary thing. meaning its not like you are either straight or Gay. and it is not as simply as being Bi meaning you like both equally. The facts bear out that many many dudes have some degree of sexual contact with the same sex at some point in their early life. mainly because they are full of the hormones of puberty and sometimes the right set of circumstances present themselves and it happens. They general consensus is that human sexuality is a spectrum like say you know light wave. some folks are so straight that no matter what they are not going to ever be into the same sex, others are straight but under the right circumstances they might relieve their sexual tensions with a same sex partner. The classic but not perfect example is prison sex. but there are even those that may not in prison but might in a certain situation. The other think you might want to know is that when we grow up are basic predispositions are shaped by our experiences. I am willing to bet that you are pretty good friends with this guy and had been long before the whole sex thing happened. what happens when are minds and brains are young and full of hormones can strongly shape our later preferences. like a poster put up here, he has a girlfriend who is not into other women except for one she had an experience with as a childhood friend. Now there are also Bi-sexual people meaning they have a strong taste for both types of sex. And some go so far as to insist that they could not be happy with both types of sex. Most professionals reject that as just selfishness though as wanting multiple partners of the opposite sex is not much different than wanting a partner of both types. In the end if you develop all of your talents and aspects as a person which plenty of people do not do. Then Monogamy is not going to be a problem. But here is a good question you can ask yourself. you can “get off” with your friend but are you into lots of other guys when you see them? Could you see yourself wanting to be romantic with them loving them as partner that you wanted to raise kids with and share your inner most secrets with and just touch non-sexually but affectionately. Then perhaps you are very strongly bi-sexual or Gay. But it really depends on how you would characterize the full range of loving feelings not just the sexual heat with either sex. And it can be confusing as right now being an undercover lover with a same sex guy you know really well can be both exciting because it is taboo and potentially dangerous, and because in another way since you are really treating him as a date or romantic but as just a hot sexual experience, it is also a simple and easy way to relieve sexual tension. In the end, no one will know you and how you feel better than you do. And there is a measure of control you have. I am not saying if you are really heavily gay and you do not want to be you can change it, but if you do not want to expand your sexual attraction to men then simply do not indulge it. For that matter if you have a girlfriend, do not kid yourself, I know you think, ah we are just buds that fuck, but you friend has tried anal sex and was the one who it sounds like initiated the the experience so he may swing more to the bi or gay side then you do and so he may develop romantic feelings that you do not yet realize and whether he does or not, it is still cheating on your girlfriend. I am sorry but in today society it is kind of sad because you either have hard core “old school” religious types saying, NO SEX or you have sexual advocates advocating to do it any ole way. And the truth is that sex is to be taken seriously whether or not you are religious or not. Sex is a very powerful and intimate experience with someone, no matter how much you try to de-personalize it. the drugs your brain releases during sex are as powerful and in some ways more than any of the strongest narcotics. Also there is no way to not learn something about someone you have had sex with, especially repeatedly, that is very powerful and personal information. To much bad violence goes down because people fail to realize these facts and really think on them. And then now there are all the communicable diseases out there that you can catch. i mean I am betting you and your buddy are not protecting yourself and maybe your male friend who seems a bit more into it has had anal sex with other folks? I mean do you want to give your girlfriend Aids or genital warts, Warts by the way are far more common than many realize and they are hard to diagnose early in a woman as they happen on the inside of her. And they can make her unable to have children or set her up to be predisposed to cancer as well. I do not care if you are gay or bi or straight as none of those designations makes you a bad person. But I do want you to be honest and smart about how you handle yourself and your sex partners. Otherwise you are just another potential sexual bomb walking around. Also I think serial monogamy is the way to go. serial means you can have more than one partner, just not more than one at a time. And I think that you should realize that sex is a powerful psychological experience and so you should hopefully at least care about who you have sex with. But when we are young almost always some forms of experimentation takes place. It is up to you and your sex drive to tell you what that means. You can be a mainly straight guy that simply had a set of circumstances where you explored the part of your drive that enjoyed getting off with a guy. But if that has not translated over into you needing to bang a bunch of other guys and if you feel you can only be romantic with a woman than you are probably just a dude that had sex with other dudes and now its up to you to clean up your act one way or the other. If you know you can only love a woman but can have sex with either a man or a woman than you have a pretty good idea. If you feel like having sex with a woman is nice but you sure miss having a mans cock, then you may be much more seriously conflicted than that. But also understand that Sex is at its highest when we are young and that it chills out at about 25. you are still totally virile but you are not so tortured as you were when you were 15 and the wind blew on your pants and you had to run upstairs and beat off. you need to give yourself the time and the space to be honest with how you feel. Also, if you have a girlfriend and you want to keep her, then it is time to quit cheating on her. If you cannot see being able to just have sex with her then your issues are much bigger than if you are bi, gay or straight. You are saying that you are unable to be monogamous. Either way, I would suggest you stop messing around with your friend and then see how you feel about life and your relationship and then take it from there. And there is nothing wrong with going to talk to a counselor about this stuff. but make is a psychologist with a PHD. Not a psychiatrist with an MD. the Doctors are much more about the medicines and tend to be less skilled in general in regular life issues that are just about sorting out your feelings. As long as you are not going to hurt someone or commit a crime, those people have to keep your conversations confidential. I do not recommend seeking out a religious counselor on this one unless you are sure they come from a church who does not reflexively condemn homosexuality. There are many good religious counselors who do not but it is not something you need to risk. You need to figure out how you feel before you even start to address whether or not you feel it is right or wrong. Some people feel it is wrong but their basis for that is a certain interpretation of religious texts, not anything that has a solid factual basis. But to give full disclosure that is something that I feel many churches are a bit archaic about. Good luck and realize that whatever your preferences are the only thing you should feel at all troubled about is being dishonest and unfaithful to other people. Being gay is not being guilty of anything. And be assured plenty of straight guys have had periods in their life where they experimented. sexual tastes run along a continuum and you cannot help where you fall. Only how you choose to deal with it.
4:42 am on May 24th, 2009
Can you spell G A Y
4:57 pm on May 25th, 2009
yeah i got a similar story..
you can fight a thousand fights, and never be a boxer,
but you suck 1 dick, then you’re a cocksucker.
that’s homo, bro.
5:58 pm on May 25th, 2009
You certainly have sexual identity issues here. You may be bisexual but definitely not straight. Or may be you are gay but can’t/won’t admit to it. Nothing’s wrong with being bi or gay or straight! But you need to be honest with yourself and eventually with your girlfriend.
8:00 pm on May 27th, 2009
Satan has a point here…
12:35 pm on June 1st, 2009
Any man who does this whether they are muscular, or not are fags! Once you touch another man’s cock and put it in your mouth, YOU’RE A FAG!
2:54 am on June 3rd, 2009
your cock in his mouth makes you gay, his cock in your mouth definitely makes you gay
3:30 am on June 5th, 2009
There is no bi. There is straight, gay and horny. You are very horny. Just go fuck your friend! You will probably love it. Fuck the world and do whatever you want.
10:13 am on June 12th, 2009
>Are there guys who do this?
Yes, they’re call gays. Enjoy you repressed homosexual urges.
10:13 am on June 17th, 2009
A lot of guys do this when they are younger…then come out older in life.
12:31 am on June 21st, 2009
this is so brokeback;
2:55 am on July 3rd, 2009
Man, you have developed an addiction to sexual experimentation. Hope you find the answer and experience freedom!
7:03 am on August 28th, 2009
if u really love him , there is nothing bad in that. but u must be sure about his feelings are same with you. maybe u can be happy more , when u are in date.
9:50 pm on August 31st, 2009
ain’t nothin’ wrong with wanting to fuck another dude!
12:29 am on September 2nd, 2009
OK well obviously these people are stating opinions on something they’ve never experienced and that’s ignorant. I love women they have wonderful bodies I love the way they taste feel sound etc etc. I had a best (male) friend when I was 19 I was friends with for 5 years and we fucked several times in a span of a few weeks. I loved it and am glad I experienced it, I could care less about doing it with any other guy… It does not matter how they look or anything I’m just not interested. I have had kids since then and have a baby’s momma and a girlfriend I still visit and am perfectly content. Would I ever sleep with my old best friend again? YES. Would you ever find me at a gay bar trying to get picked up. NO. You can’t label sexuality there is so much stigmata from religion and social standards that keep sexuality labeled and boxed in. But look at all the other facets of our personalities and what make us individual can you pick one word to describe yourself? I hope not, just do what you want… fuck peoples opinions… especially the gangster wannabes that try to type in ebonics on anonymous blogsites, you already know what they are going to say.
6:52 pm on September 7th, 2009
I think gay sex is hot!
5:17 pm on September 11th, 2009
BEAUTIFUL ENDING — well said. I agree 100%.
2:15 pm on September 21st, 2009
fuck everyones comments. from my personal experience and what ive been through. your not gay. you grew up like that it just happened. your not gay. dont worry about it.
5:20 pm on September 24th, 2009
This guy is a fag. Anyone who disagrees with me doesn’t know the definition of homosexual. I was in a similar situation but have never touched another guy in that way nor have I ever thought of doing anything gay towards any of my friends. So many stupid people on the internet. Go back to school bad cat, beautifulending and all you other idiots.
7:18 pm on September 26th, 2009
SHIT! YOUR GAYYY MANN!!!!!!!! UR GAYYY!!!!! dat Homo! u fukin MESS UP!
2:31 pm on September 29th, 2009
Come on, don’t suck his dick, I’ll do it for you. Don’t let him suck your dick, I’ll do it for him. Then you can both get your dicks sucked and you won’t have to be “gay.” Obviously your stupid girlfriends can’t do it, let me do what I do best.
4:06 am on October 28th, 2009
Yeah dude, my best bud of 18 years and I do the same thing. And neither of us with another dude. It
s just brotherly love, killing time, no biggy.
5:20 pm on October 30th, 2009
I wanna see that yummmi
11:26 am on October 31st, 2009
Actually boys who are close to each other do tend to experiment with each other. Some move on, some don’t. Most still save some kind of attraction for the person they did the experimenting with. So it is a type of normal experience.
6:39 pm on November 5th, 2009
there is no such thing as bi,if you like cock your gay!
1:16 am on November 7th, 2009
Don’t listen to these other people. As “A free shrink” was saying, sexuality isn’t black or white, it’s more of a broad spectrum.
There are plenty of heterosexuals (male and female) that have had homosexual experiences. It’s normal. And don’t worry, no matter what you are, just worry about being happy. 🙂
11:00 am on November 10th, 2009
Your fuckin gay as aids man!! (u will probably get them soon!!)
3:20 pm on November 10th, 2009
LOL. MOFO’s ignorant ass thinks AIDS is a gay disease, which would suggest he’s too ignorant to know the facts.
MOFO – you will be dead soon.
6:10 am on November 19th, 2009
Sounds fine to me . . . you are just the kind of cocksucker that Savage Love hates so much . . . but I think socking cock is fine, as is fucking girls . . . you know what I mean??
9:51 pm on August 3rd, 2010
the majority of people who replied to this are either too naive to know what theyre talking about or completely ignorant and inappropriate.
truthfully, a large percentage of men and women experiment at a young age due to puberty.
theyre experimenting with one or two friends but feel might be completely straight right now.
ive had the same type of experience when i was young and im a straight guy.
when i see a guy, i dont find them attractive in any way as i do with women.
some people do these things when theyre young, its natural buddy.